The Habit of Saying, “I Love You”

In my last blog post, it was mentioned that I say, “I love you,” to my husband regularly at certain times, and that got me to thinking about habits. Then I found this photo and quote …

A habit is defined as “a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously.” Habits can be good or bad, and it’s my opinion that getting into the habit of saying, “I love you,” is definitely a good one. It may be a reminder of how important a role someone plays in your life. Perhaps you say those three little words to express how happy being with that special person makes you. Maybe you want your sweetie to know how much you trust and rely on them … how much you appreciate every moment spent with him or her.

Maybe saying, “I love you” at certain times isn’t simply a habit, but is truly a reminder that you’re with the one individual who has made your life so much better, and you really do see them as the best thing that ever happened to you.

Whenever you say those three precious words, allow yourself to remember their importance. When you say, “I love you,” say it with feeling. Let all the emotions you have for your loved one shine through that simple phrase.

“I’m happiest when I’m with you.”

“I trust you with my heart.”

“I accept you … all of you.  I’ll support you in your choices.”

“I see us together, and I want a future that includes growing old with you.”

Regardless if it’s a habit or not, let those who share your life know in word and deed how important they are to you. My advice would be to say, “I love you,” as often and in as many ways as you can. Expressing love is something we can never get too much of.

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How to Say “I Love You”

Did you know that there are approximately 6,500 different languages spoken in the world? Imagine that! Over 6,000 ways to say “I love you.” Probably because I’m a romantic at heart, you’ll hear me say the words, “I love you” quite frequently if you’re around me very much. I make it a habit to say those words to my husband before we go to sleep at night, when we wake up in the morning and any time either one of us leaves the house. If (God forbid) anything should happen to one of us, I want the last words between us to be those very important, very special words. I love you.

As significant as it is to tell those we care about how we feel, it is equally vital to show our love. Now, that doesn’t mean some grand gesture or expensive gift is necessary. Sending a text or making a phone call just to let your loved one know you’ve been thinking about them is a quick and easy way to show your love.

Other ways to show your love might include holding hands, hugging or even just a simple touch. Whenever I see a couple walking along with their hands entwined – no matter if they’re teenagers or senior citizens – it makes me smile. I don’t know who said it, but I agree that a hug is a handshake from the heart.  And a gentle touch can show your support, caring, concern, and, of course, your love. 

Show your love through communication. Talk to your loved one. Tell them what you like and what you don’t. Share your dreams, your goals, your wishes. Make plans … big and small, for things you would like to do, places you would like to visit … together. 

Yes, it’s great to say the words, “I love you,” and I would encourage you to speak those three little words every day … multiple times a day. But don’t stop there. Take it a step further and show your love in the things that you do.

Love is Easy … Really?

Love is easy … except when it’s not. It seems to me that falling in love happens quite easily for many people. It’s the staying in love that appears to be a challenge for many. These days, it’s fairly common for couples to live together instead of formalizing their union with marriage. Personally, I see nothing wrong with that as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement. And why not? Let’s look at the facts. Even though, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, divorce rates have been decreasing since 1996, approximately 50% of marriages in the United States still end in divorce.

Here’s another statistic you might find interesting.

  • 41% of FIRST marriages
  • 60% of SECOND marriages and
  • 73% of THIRD marriages end in divorce.

What the heck happened to third time’s the charm?

Older Americans probably remember when getting a divorce or being a divorcée was totally frowned upon. Some couples stayed together “for the sake of the children” only to split as soon as the youngest turned eighteen or left home. I can’t say that I totally agree with the logic in that line of thinking … especially if Mom and Dad are miserable and the home atmosphere is unpleasant for everyone.

Love is easy when everything is going smoothly, but nothing in life is ever smooth all the time. Love isn’t perfect and neither are the individuals who fall in love. We don’t live in a fairy tale world and happily-ever-after is often only found in a romance novel.

Love isn’t always easy, and if you think that loving the one you’re with will always be smooth sailing … Well, all I can say is—it won’t.

Staying in love is about overcoming challenges. It’s about working on yourself and your relationship. It’s about holding on and doing everything you can to keep it together. Sometimes love even requires knowing when to let go. Staying in love … keeping your love alive, takes effort. However, when you can manage to stay in love you’ll be creating memories … a history.

If both you and your loved one are willing to do what it takes to stay together, I believe that in the end you’ll come to the realization that every hour, every minute, every second (even the hard parts) of it was worth it because you did it … together.

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Even if you’re not interested in joining Anita Louise’s Reader Team , please go ahead and get your FREE copy of the first romance novel by Anita Louise, “Just the Way You Are ~ Aaron & Jane” on Amazon. Then, after you’ve read it, please let me know how you liked it by leaving your Review of “Just the Way You Are”. Your review is important – even a few words to encourage other readers is greatly appreciated.

Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita

A Father’s Love

This is Father’s Day weekend in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom which, naturally, is the reason for the title of this week’s blog post. We all have a father … that’s a given. Some fathers are still with us and some are not. As we were growing up, some fathers were loving and caring—demonstrating to their children the quintessential role model of the ideal father. For others, our fathers were or may still remain flawed or absent from our lives.

Love is the underpinning of life, and a father’s love is certainly an important aspect of the love we all wish to have.

In spite of the fact that my dad was far from perfect, I was a “Daddy’s girl.” As a child, I would follow him around—totally fascinated by anything and everything he was doing. He used to work on cars in his spare time. Since I was right there, he would ask me to hand him this or that.

“Hand me that wrench, Neet!” he would bellow. Looking over the pile of greasy objects, I would pick up what I hoped might be a wrench only to hear, “Not that! Don’t you know what a wrench looks like?”

Pleasing my dad was something I always tried to do, but did not always succeed. However, whether he was happy with me or upset, the one thing I was always sure of was that he loved me. Oh, he never said it much, but I knew it. I think that made me one lucky kid, and for that I am grateful.

My wish for you this Father’s Day weekend, is that you appreciate the love you’ve been given, and give your love freely and fully … to your fathers, mothers, children … to your family and friends … and especially to yourself.

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Even if you’re not interested in joining the Reader Team , please go ahead and get your FREE copy of the first romance novel in The Adler Series, “Just the Way You Are ~ Aaron & Jane” on Amazon. Then, after you’ve read it, please let me know how you liked it by leaving your Review of “Just the Way You Are”. Your review is extremely important – even a few words to encourage other readers is greatly appreciated.

Wishing you Love & Romance,

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Love and New Beginnings

Today is the last day of the Kindle Scout program for my latest book, The Things We Do For Love. (If you haven’t nominated yet, please do so here.) Writing Luke, Shelly, and Mary Beth’s story was a lot of fun for me. Now it’s time to start a new project. As you know, love and romance are the underlying themes of everything I write – thus the title of this blog.

Love_and_New_BeginningsStarting something new doesn’t necessarily mean the end of something else. However, the two do often coincide. In today’s world, the idea of “multitasking” is a common phenomenon. I always tell myself that I can start the next book before the current novel is published, but …. Okay, I’ve written maybe a thousand or so words for my next book.

The epilogue of The Things We Do For Love begins Gabriella’s story. Naturally, you would think that’s what I’m working on but, no …. Surprise! It’s time to find out where it all began. John and Juliette Adler’s love story will be next. Instead of a sequel, you’ll enjoy the prequel to The Adler Series. You already know how the story ends – John and Juliette marry and have nine children together. You’ve read “The Adler Rules” and know the philosophy the Adler parents used to successfully raise Michael, Phillip, Brooke, Gabriella, Aaron, Olivia, Luke, Whitney, and Connor.

This is the part where John’s page meets Juliette’s … where Juliette finds her Romeo. I can’t tell you exactly where this story will take all of us. But you can be sure John and Juliette Adler’s story will always read LOVE.

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Several titles have already been considered for John and Juliette’s story. However, nothing is set in stone. Maybe I should run a contest. What do you think? Anyone interested? Here are three titles I’ve toyed with:

  1. Because You Love Me
  2. My Love, My Valentine
  3. No Ordinary Love

Please let me know if you prefer one title over the others, or if you have another suggestion. Also, if you’d be interested in participating in a book title naming contest, let me know. Might be fun. Please give me your feedback.

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Love’s Healing Power

We’ve all heard or read the stories of miraculous healings and medical miracles. I truly believe that the power of LOVE is “the most healing force in the world.” It is my opinion that love is more powerful … greater than it is possible for any human being  to completely understand. Loves_Healing_Power

The healing power of LOVE is one of the main themes in Should I Stay or Should I Go,  the 4th novel in the Adler series. Recently, I’ve been re-reading this story I wrote over a year ago. Naturally, I am very familiar with the premise of the story. The female lead, Gina, enters the story with a terrible secret and is very much in need of healing.

The story line showed me that love is patient. Love is kind – gentle – caring – compassionate, and powerful. Love is capable of healing us – physically, mentally, and emotionally. Sometimes love is the only thing that can heal.

Love is an energy that can have healing effects on all areas of your life. The more love you give, the more love you will receive. Love heals. Love has been scientifically proven to be capable of curing what was thought to be incurable.

You are the vehicle through which loves power can work its miracles. You are love made manifest.  Love can change your life, and it can change the life of someone you give your love to. There’s a reason so many people read romance novels. It’s because they speak the language of LOVE.

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Wishing you love & romance,

Anita

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Love is in the Air

Can you see it? Can you feel it? Along with the scent of lilacs, have you noticed the special aroma of love that seems to permeate the air today? love_is_in_the_air_by_eadesign_designisfun

Love has no season, but it seems as if when spring is in the air, it’s also the time of year when love more readily abounds … or perhaps I simply notice it a bit more.

The air is buzzing with birds and bees. Birds have built their nests and are working on filling them with eggs. I once had a robin’s nest on my front porch. When the babies finally broke through their shells, both mother and father robin’s love flew through the air as the pair worked tirelessly to bring nourishment back to their precious chicks. Soon, I expect to see the ducklings following their loving mother to join her as she shows them where to find and enjoy the corn and seeds I’ve left outside for my fine feathered (and furry) friends.

When love is in the air, not only does it make you feel better … it makes you want to be better. People seem to be more generous, more considerate, more compassionate when love is in the air.

Doors (both physical and those of opportunity) are opened for you, and you pass the favor along to others.

Friends and family … maybe even those you’ve never met, support you in the achievement of your goals and dreams, and you do the same in return.

Perhaps you find yourself rambling on about something important to you, and notice how patiently a listening ear is there – allowing you to carry on as if your musings were the most significant topic in the world.

When love is in the air, you find that doing something for someone else is a pleasure and a privilege. You call, text, send a note or maybe even flowers just to let that person know you’re thinking about them and how important they are to you.

Let your love fill the air. It will flow from you and come back in unexpected and wonderful ways.

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Please Show Some Love

It’s usual for me to write about something related to love and/or relationships for my weekly blog. Today’s post is a little different. I’m actually asking for each of you to show me some love by supporting my Kindle Scout campaign for “The Things We Do for Love”.

The Things We Do_CoverThis is the 6th book in The Adler Series, and tells Luke and Shelly’s love story. You may remember them from earlier Adler novels. Shelly’s teenage daughter, Mary Beth, plays a major role in their road to living “happily ever after.”

Writing this story was a lot of fun for me because making a relationship work with children involved was a personal experience. Of course, I drew on both the mistakes I made as well as the things I did right in my own life.

Since there are quite a few couples in today’s world who deal with dating as a single parent, this book will hit home with many.

Please help me out by going to my Kindle Scout Campaign for “The Things We Do for Love ~ Luke & Shelly” and nominating this book for publication.

Thank you so very, very much for your help and support!

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If you’ve already signed up to be a member of Anita Louise’s Advance Reader Team, you will be receiving your copy of “The Things We Do for Love” very soon. Please remember to nominate it.

Also, if you haven’t done so yet, please post your review(s) of the previous Adler books on Amazon. Here are the review links.

Review of “Just the Way You Are ~ Aaron & Jane”

Review of “Bad Case of Lovin’ You ~ Brooke & Zack”

Review of “When a Man Loves a Woman ~ Michael & Analese” (formerly published as “A House is Not a Home”)

Review of “Should I Stay or Should I Go ~ Connor & Gina”

Review of “You Light Up My Life ~ Olivia & Tyler”

If you’re not yet a member of Anita’s Advance Review Team and would like to be,  please complete the form below.  In the “Comments” section let me know your format preference (Kindle/mobi, Nook/ePub, PDF). When you do, you’ll receive a FREE copy of my next book, “The Things We Do For Love ~ Luke & Shelly”.

All I ask is that you please leave your honest review on Amazon and perhaps Goodreads after you’ve finished reading the book.

Also, if you haven’t done so already, please click here to get your FREE copy of the first romance novel by Anita Louise, “Just the Way You Are ~ Aaron & Jane” on Amazon. Then, after you’ve read it, please let me know how you liked it by leaving your Review of “Just the Way You Are”. Your review is important – even a few words to encourage other readers is greatly appreciated.

Love & Romance,

Anita

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Live ~ Laugh ~ Love

Keeping a journal has been a habit of mine for many years. This year, my journal has “Live ~ Laugh ~ Love” printed on the cover, and those words  became the theme for this week’s post. When looking for an image to accompany my thoughts, I found several that said,

Live every moment. Laugh every day. Love beyond words.”

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Great advice! But then I found the image you see in this post and loved it even more. Many philosophers, authors and songwriters advise us to “live in the moment” … “be here now” and “live like you were dying.”

Right NOW, you are the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll ever be again.

I don’t know about you, but that very profound thought had never really hit me before.

As we advance in years, we may become more cautious … do fewer spontaneous things … and generally take life more seriously. However,

Living, Loving, & Laughing

is not reserved for any particular stage in life. Men and women of all ages can find themselves suddenly single. It’s common for those in their 20’s and 30’s to readily go to Match.comeHarmony or some other dating site to find their next special someone – and for a good reason. Having somebody to love and laugh with can make living more fun no matter how old you are. Now there are websites like  EliteSingles, OurTime, and SeniorPeopleMeet that cater to the older crowd.

Live ~ Laugh ~ Love” is a great motto by which to live your life, and it makes no difference if you’re 18 or 108.

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Would you like to be a part of Anita Louise’s Advance Reader Team? Just complete the form below and in the “Comments” section let me know your format preference (Kindle/mobi, Nook/ePub, PDF, etc.) When you do, you’ll receive a FREE copy of my next book, “The Things We Do For Love ~ Luke & Shelly” as soon as it’s available. All I ask is that you leave your honest review on Amazon and perhaps Goodreads after you’ve finished reading the book.

Also, if you haven’t done so already, please click here to get your FREE copy of the first romance novel by Anita Louise, “Just the Way You Are ~ Aaron & Jane” on Amazon. Then, after you’ve read it, please let me know how you liked it by leaving your Review of “Just the Way You Are”. Your review is important – even a few words to encourage other readers is greatly appreciated.

Love & Romance,

Anita

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