What’s Your Focus?

“Treat yourself with love and respect, and you will attract people who show you love and respect.” ~ Rhonda Byrne, Author of The Secret

When the movie and book, The Secret, came out, many were introduced to the Law of Attraction for the first time. With it came the knowledge that what we focus on expands. What we think about, we bring about. The Law of Attraction tells us we draw to us the things on which we focus our thoughts. We are strongly influenced by what we read, listen to, the people we spend the most time with, etc.. The more attention we give to whatever it is … the stronger the pull.

That’s why it’s imperative that we focus on what’s important. Look for the good in any and all circumstances, and you will find it. Put your attention on what you would like to be, do and have, instead of the opposite.

Often this is easier said than done. As with most parents, when my children were young, teaching them right from wrong, appropriate from inappropriate behavior, and keeping them safe were all top priorities. I had to train myself to encourage the behavior I wanted to see rather than reprimanding the behavior I didn’t like. I had to learn to be on the lookout for what they were doing right, and praising the good instead of focusing on punishing them for their less than desirable behavior.

In some ways it was easier to learn to focus on the good with my children than it was with myself. When it came to treating myself the way I wished to be treated by others, I had a long way to go and a lot to learn. It was many years before I even realized how negative my self-talk was … “too fat, too short, I can’t, not good enough at this, I suck at that …” the list went on and on.

I’d always seen myself as a very kind individual, yet it seemed that kindness was reserved only for others. It was a major “Aha!” moment when I finally realized that I would never talk to anyone else (not even someone I didn’t like, let alone someone I cared about) the way I was talking to myself.

Keep your focus on the achievement of your goals, dreams and desires. Learn to become aware of your thoughts and make sure your thinking supports what and who you want in your life. If, like me, you discover there’s been a bit of self-sabotage going on, start taking the steps to change. It’s been my experience that transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It can take weeks, months, or even years.

Keep working on it. Keep believing in yourself. Focus on the good, and you will find it.

You may find also these additional resources to be helpful.

Jack Canfield –  Key to Living the Law of Attraction

John Assaraf – The Complete Vision Board Kit: Using the Power of Intention and Visualization to Achieve Your Dreams  

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



Becoming Fearless

“Nothing in life is to be feared; it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more so that we may fear less.” ~ Marie Curie

Starting something new can be exciting and exhilarating for some … daunting and even scary for others. Even those who look forward to change may find those once stimulating endeavors less enjoyable over time if they are not receiving the expected results and/or benefits.

Let’s face it, life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. It makes no difference if it’s something not previously attempted or experienced, or something we’ve been working on for quite a while, the odds are there are going to be some bumps along the way. Whether mountains or molehills, the challenges we face, and how we deal with those challenges determine our destiny.

Marie Curie lived in a time when it was unusual for a woman to be educated. It was because of her determination, she was finally able to begin her life’s work as a scientist. Surely, there were times along the way that she feared that her dreams would never become a reality. However, Curie’s thirst for understanding overcame her fears.

In her book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, author, Dr. Susan Jeffries states, “At the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can’t handle whatever life may bring to you.” The truth is … you can.

The more we learn, the more we grow. And as we grow and understand more … we can then become fearless.

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Anita



Persistence

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not. Nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not. The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”~ Calvin Coolidge

There is and has been a plaque with the above quote hanging on my wall for many years. I don’t know about you, but the ability to “keep on keeping on” when things aren’t going the way you’d like can be a serious challenge. Those of you who have been pursuing a dream for any length of time without achieving it know exactly what I’m talking about.

Perhaps artists— musicians, actors, painters of all sorts, and, yes, writers like me, understand this more than most. Even when you love what you do, sometimes persisting when few seem to take notice and compensation is slim can be a daunting task.

In researching this topic, information found in the book “Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength” by Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney proved to be quite helpful. “When psychologists isolate the personal qualities that predict ‘positive outcomes’ in life, they consistently find two traits: intelligence and willpower.”

Toughing it out and pushing through when things get difficult doesn’t seem to be a popular way of dealing with challenges as it used to be. Lack of willpower is often the reason given for someone’s failure to achieve a stated goal. However, just as our muscles grow stronger through regular exercise, so does our will to continue toward making our dreams a reality.

That is why I continue to hone my craft put in the time on a regular basis … to become the best writer of romance I can possibly be, and to share a message of hope and inspiration with my readers.

If you would please share this post via whatever your preferred social media platform, it would help a lot and be greatly appreciated. Thank you all for your love and support in my endeavors.

 

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



Always have Hope

“If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps you moving, you lose that courage to be … that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream.”

The above quote is from a great man – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.. The United States has made many strides when it comes to equality since Dr. King’s “I Have a Dream” speech in 1963. However, as far as we’ve come, we still have a long way to go.

Everyone has the same concerns, regardless of the color of their skin, their gender, religious beliefs, sexual preference, or political opinion. We all seek equality, security and opportunity. Rather than looking at and emphasizing our differences, why don’t we focus on what we have in common?

Hope for a better future keeps our dreams alive. Hope is “the vitality that keeps us moving.” It is my hope that if you are reading this post, you will continue to have hope … you will not only keep your dreams alive, but put in the work.

Put your plans and goals into written form. Be persistent. Be resilient in the face of challenges and always have hope. That hope will give you the faith to take the first step and the next … and the next.

In the words of the man whose life we honor today …

“If you can’t fly then run. If you can’t run then walk. If you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”

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Anita



New Year ~ Fresh Start

Wow! 2017 went by in a hurry, didn’t it? Now it’s the beginning of a new year, and another chance for a fresh start.

You may or may not have noticed that during the month of December I only posted one single blog. Yes, I was busy with holiday shopping and spending time with friends and family. Also, I had made a commitment to myself that I would publish a Christmas novella … which I did.

All I Want for Christmas Is You is, in my opinion, not my best work. However, it’s a nice short story about the events leading to Aaron and Jane’s wedding as well as the ceremony itself. I feel good about getting it finished. I love and appreciate those of you who have become fans of the Adler family. However, for now that series will be taking a little hiatus.

The fresh start for me this year is the beginning of a new series. You won’t find any steamy romance scenes in The Isle of Hope books. What you will find are characters you will (hopefully) come to love and scenes that make you feel like you’re standing right there. You can also expect these books to tug at your heart and make you feel what the characters are going through.

Look for a few sneak peaks in the upcoming weeks. In the meantime, may you approach the New Year with positive thoughts and lofty dreams. Then do the work to make the goals you set for yourself a reality.

Happy New Year!

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Anita



Little Things Mean a Lot

Once upon a time, long, long ago, I was in a relationship filled with occasional grand gestures and expensive gifts. Yes, those rare moments were appreciated. However, what was much more frequent were the harsh words, negative comments and subtle and sometimes blatant put-downs.  Birthdays, Christmas and anniversaries came with boxes big and small prettily wrapped for all to see. Hidden from view was a day-to-day existence that was basically quite miserable.

Here are a few of the lyrics from a song published in 1953 entitled “Little Things Mean a Lot.”

Blow me a kiss from across the room … Say I look nice when I’m not
Touch my hair as you pass my chair … Little things mean a lot

Give me your hand when I’ve lost the way … Give me your shoulder to cry on
Whether the day is bright or gray … Give me your heart to rely on

Send me the warmth of a secret smile … To show me you haven’t forgot
For always and ever, now and forever … Little things mean a lot

There’s nothing wrong with grand gestures, but those are not the things that make a relationship last. It’s the small things we do every day that truly show what’s in our hearts.

Show your love by the kind way you speak … the loving look in your eyes … the gentle touch you give.

Over time, those little things will add up to much more than any grand gestures, and you will find you have the lasting love you’ve always wanted.

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



Thanks & Giving

Like many Americans, I recently celebrated Thanksgiving Day with family and friends. This is the time of year when many of us put more focus on giving to others and being grateful for all that we have. Gratitude, from the Latin word gratia, is defined as grace, graciousness or gratefulness … in other words—thankful appreciation.

Research has proven that the act of expressing gratitude actually makes us happier. It is important that we give thanks. Gratefulness helps us to increase the positive emotions we feel. As we become more appreciative lots of good things happen … our health improves; we’re better able to deal with life’s challenges; our relationships become stronger.

Life is a circle. Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. Even the Bible supports this. In Galatians 6:7 it is stated, “Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Luke 6:38 says, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

Philosophies taught over two-thousand years ago continue to be true. One of the things I love about living in today’s world is observing how the scientific and the spiritual are coming closer together … finding more agreement than ever before. For years, proponents of positive thinking, followers of “new thought” and metaphysicians have been telling us …

What you focus on expands. What you think about, you bring about.

Now science is proving this to be accurate. Neuroplasticity is the scientific term for how our brains change in response to our experiences. With each situation … each encounter … each circumstance, the relevant neurons in our brain switch on and start firing. The more this happens, the stronger those neural connections become. As these connections gain strength, they become more effective.

When we practice looking for the good in all situations, the good that is there becomes easier for us to find. The circumstances we face become less challenging, and we’re better able to deal with those that we encounter. What we seek … we find. As we repeat or prolong these experiences the corresponding neurons are recognized as being more important and are then elevated … given more priority.

During this holiday season, please join me in showing gratitude. Let’s demonstrate our appreciation for everything and everyone. Help by giving more love, sowing more harmony, sharing more joy. The more positive gifts we give, the more they will come back to fill the world and our own lives.

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



The Woman You’re Meant to Be

I consider myself a strong woman, but that has not always been the case. As a child, my father was the unquestionable leader of the family. My mother was very loving, kind and funny. She stayed at home with her girls (my sister and me), and for the majority of my youth she didn’t drive or work outside the home.

From my perspective as a child, most, if not all important decisions were made by my father. Those times when I became uncooperative or unruly, threatening to tell my father was Momma’s greatest weapon to get my behavior back in line. Sadly, my mother was only forty-years-old, and I was only eleven when she left this plane of existence. Perhaps if she had been stronger …?

It is probably not surprising that when I started dating, the boy I chose was very controlling. The relationship that started when I was fifteen was filled with what I thought was love along with drama and strife. The years together included a wedding, the birth of three children, the loss of a child, and divorce.

There is no doubt I went through some major changes during those years and the ones following. I went from being a girl to becoming a woman … a strong woman. The challenges faced along the way forced me to look deep within … to learn about myself … to grow … to become the woman I am today.

Jim Rohn is quoted as saying, “Don’t wish it was easier … wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems … wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge … wish for more wisdom.”

I can’t say that I agree with Mr. Rohn 100%. I do wish those years had been easier. However, because they weren’t, I became better. Because of the challenges I faced and overcame along the way, my skills increased, and, as a result, I gained more wisdom.

Perhaps the fact that I did not get my wish for an easier, less challenging life is exactly why and how I became the strong woman I was meant to be.

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



Passion, Compassion and Love

We often associate passion with love. However, in many ways the lasting love most humans seek is more closely related to compassion than passion.

Even though “passion” is contained in the word compassion, the two are quite different. Passion as an emotion is an intense feeling or desire. Although frequently associated with love, intense passion is often closely interwoven with sex. When a man and woman meet and there is a sexual chemistry between them, passion may result in the couple ending up naked under a blanket. In this case there may be little or no real love involved.

Compassion, on the other hand, is defined as a feeling of sympathy or concern for others. Those who are compassionate tend to have a sense of connection to other people. That connection results in genuine concern. Compassionate concern is often more apparent when someone is going through a difficult period or challenge.

We can compare being compassionate to putting ourselves in another person’s shoes. We cannot necessarily fix whatever the problem is they’re having. However, simply being their … letting them know there is someone who cares … someone they can lean on … someone who will listen can make a real difference.

In a long-term relationship, compassion is an important component to the strength and duration of the happiness of the couple. Compassion, therefore, may be even more vital for love to last than passion.

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Wishing you Love & Romance,

Anita



Happy Anniversary!

What a blessing! Years of happiness have passed by in a blink. Years shared with my lover, my friend … my husband. Mike was not only one of the best looking guys in high school, he was also one of the nicest. I liked him … a lot. There was only one problem … well, maybe two. Mike was a good friend of the guy I was dating, and one of my closest girlfriends was going out with Mike. Consequently, I kept my secret crush carefully hidden.

Then … miracle of miracles! Both Mike and I were broken up from our “steadies” at the same time. He asked me out and I gladly said, “Yes!” One wonderful night. One sweet kiss that lived in my memory.

Marriage … children … divorce … years of each of us living our separate lives until… They say lightning doesn’t strike twice, but in this case, they were wrong. The oh-so-good-looking boy had grown up, but he was still the kind and wonderful person I’d known. Our paths had remained entwined through the years.

Finally, a dream came true. On November 7th , it will be twenty-five years since I married the most amazing man I’ve ever known. I am so very grateful to have spent these years as half of the union of two people who deeply love, understand and respect one another. I’ve been so blessed to share this time with a man who shows his love and support every day. We’ve been through phenomenal good and also bouts of the less than ideal … lots of laughter, and a few tears. We’ve met and overcome a number of challenges along the way—each of them bringing us closer and stronger.

If I could do it all over again, I don’t think I’d change a thing. My only wish is that we may have another twenty-five years to share.

I love you, Michael Koch, and I always will.

Happy Anniversary!

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Anita